DIVISION IN MARRIAGE

8/8/2007 Married couples be aware and be wise, says the lord! The first
thing that the enemy does once he sees and know that you are divided is
that he gets the two of you in total disarray by having you call each other
names and he gets you in strife with one another and caught up in the war
of words. You start calling each other stupid and he knows all too well that
no one likes to be called stupid. He knows that those are fighting words.
Then he eventually get the both of you or at least one of you to leave home
so that he can further isolate you and work on you constantly to deceive
you and to defeat you. He sends people to identify with your pain and to
agree with your actions. They say things like girl i would leave him if I was
you and once you're gone, then they say girl if I was you, I wouldn't go back
to him. What is the devil doing? He is
#1 blinding you #2 deceiving you #3
driving a permanent wedge of division and separation between you and
your spouse, and the longer that you are out there, the harder it is for you
to go back. Then the enemy knows that you are lonely so he sends another
man into the picture to pose as a close friend that is whispering sweet
words into your ears just like eve. He is constantly complimenting you and
saying nice things and telling you exactly what you want to hear and you're
not even realizing that it is a set up. He says things like girl you're beautiful.
You don't deserve to be treated like that. You're too smart for all that. Now
keep in mind this brother already looks good to you, then he start helping
you with the bills and seducing you until he gets you to have sex with him
and now you have really messed up and hating on your spouse and finding
reasons to justify your course of deadly actions. Then after the devil has
used this brother to divide you and your husband, now you are in
condemnation and pride and you won't even attempt to reconcile with your
husband because you feel guilty because you have sinned, but your
husband wants to reconcile even after our adulterous affairs. God has put it
in his heart to forgive you, but you won't forgive yourself. God turn all the
mess around but it starts with you
#1 repenting to god for your way of
actions
#2 forgiving yourself and freeing yourself from a spirit of
condemnation
#3 dropping your pride and asking your husband to forgive
you.
#4 being willing to put the past behind you and not bring it up no more
or dwell on it
#5 get rid of any and all friends that will throw this mess up in
your face and won't let you live it down. Sometimes this may even include
some family members.
#6 learning to live a life of forgiving others and over
looking their faults and give them some mercy (
Matthew 5:7). And to my
brother when you got the door open with a pity party and having marital
problems and carnal man in you wants attention to the point that you start
talking bad about your wife to other women and they take the bait. Then
that other woman comes into the picture and Satan starts using her to
further take your heart away from your wife. She start telling you how
handsome you are and how intelligent you are and you know that you have
not been getting that at home and it feels good, but you know it's wrong and
it is a trap. Cut it loose now. If you keep going then she starts cooking you
dinner and fixing you some food everyday and she'll do whatever you want
her to do and say whatever you want her to say just like a little slave, then
you are tangled up in sexual bondage, then she ends up pregnant and starts
to manipulate you for money and threatens to call your wife and threatens
you to destroy your family. Once you came to your senses, you were
already in her web. It's still not too late to get things turned around by the
mercy of god if you are willing to go to the lord and repent and ask for his
forgiveness and mercy. Then you need to ask your wife to forgive you.
Marriages can be restored over after a mess, but it requires a made up
mind. Some of the most beautiful marriages that I have seen were some
that the couples put each other through Hell, but they surrendered their
marriages and their lives to Christ. Just know that Jesus is the way to help
you get things turned around no matter what you have done and where you
have been. There is still hope and both hope and mercy is waiting for you.
God loves you and he cares for you and he is not mad at you. He just
wants to see you restored and happy. Well I have obeyed god and wrote
what he told me to write here for the ones that needed to read this. Be
blessed and seek his face.


With Kingdom Love,

Roderick Grimes


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