THIS WRITING WAS CREATED THIS NIGHT OF OCTOBER 2, 2008 IN
RESPONSE TO THE FAITH OF A PERSON THAT WANTED TO HELP
SOMEONE ELSE TO OVERCOME FEELING SORRY FOR
THEMSELVES. IF YOU DESIRE TO KNOW AND TO DO THE LORD'S
WILL, HE WILL EQUIP YOU AND EMPOWER YOU WITH THE
KNOWLEDGE TO DO SO BE BLESSED WITH THIS WISDOM.

1. FIRST OF ALL, YOU MUST FIND OUT WHY THEY ARE FEELING
SORRY FOR THEMSELVES. THIS WILL EQUIP YOU WITH THE
KNOWLEDGE FROM WHAT STAND POINT TO EVEN BEGIN TO
MINISTER TO SOMEONE IN THAT STATE OF MIND. SOME PEOPLE
MAY FEEL SORRY BECAUSE OF THE DEATH OF A LOVE ONE AND
THEY FEEL LIKE THEY COULD HAVE DONE MORE FOR THEM TO
HELP THEM WHILE THEY WERE LIVING, SO THEY ARE CARRYING
THAT GUILT INSIDE OF THEMSELVES. NEXT, THERE ARE PEOPLE
THAT FEEL SORRY FOR THEMSELVES BECAUSE THEY LOST A JOB
OR THEY FEEL LIKE THEY COULD HAVE ACCOMPLISHED MORE IN
LIFE WITH THEMSELVES. IN ESSENCE, THEY FEEL LIKE THEY HAVE
EITHER WASTED THEIR LIVES OR HAVE MADE A MESS OF THEIR
LIVES BY THEIR OWN DECISIONS IN LIFE, WHETHER IT WAS
BECAUSE OF DRUG USE, PROSTITUTION, HAD A BAD MARRIAGE OR
GONE THROUGH A DIVORCE THAT MAYBE THEY HAD SOME FAULT
IN AND THEY FEEL GUILTY, OR BECAUSE OF JUST WRONG CHOICES
THAT THEY HAVE MADE YESTERDAY THAT IS HAVING A LASTING
EFFECT ON THEM TODAY. WHATEVER THE CASE MAY BE, THERE IS
HOPE, BUT YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHY TO HAVE A FOUNDATIONAL
STARTING POINT IN ORDER TO MINISTER TO THAT PERSON
EFFECTIVELY. THERE ARE MANY OTHER CATEGORIES, SITUATIONS,
AND EVENTS THAT CAN BE CONSIDERED ALSO.

2. PRAY AND ASK THE LORD TO GIVE YOU THE EXACT WISDOM,
KNOWLEDGE, REVELATION, AND ANSWERS FOR THE PERSON
THAT YOU ARE COUNSELING WITH AND MINISTERING TO AT THAT
TIME. IF YOU ASK,YOU WILL RECEIVE.
(JAMES 1:5, 2 CHRONICLES
1:6-12, 1 KINGS 3:3-13, MATTHEW 7:7-8)

3.
CONFESS THIS SCRIPTURE (ISAIAH 50:4) OVER YOUR LIFE, AND
KNOW THIS SCRIPTURE (PROVERBS 22:17-21) FOR YOURSELF.

4. AS A COUNSELOR OR ADVISOR, YOU MUST FIRST BE ABLE TO SIT
AND
LISTEN TO EVERYTHING A PERSON HAS TO SAY FIRST BEFORE
YOU TRY TO INTERVENE OR INTERRUPT TO TRY AND CORRECT
THEM.
(JAMES 1:19, ECCLESIASTES 12:13, PROVERBS 18:13) THOSE
SCRIPTURES ARE THE RULES OF ENGAGEMENT FOR A COUNSELOR.
YOU CAN LOCATE A PERSON AND FIND OUT EXACTLY WHERE THEY
ARE AT AND HOW THEY THINK BY WHAT THEY SAY. AFTER YOU
LOCATE THEM, THEN YOU CAN CORRECT ANY MESSED UP, WRONG,
BAD, CORRUPT, OR FOOLISH THINKING PATTERNS AND WRONG
MINDSETS THAT THEY MAY HAVE.

5. NOW YOU MUST DETERMINE IF THEY ARE SAVED (BORN
AGAIN). IN OTHER WORDS, DO THEY HAVE RELATIONSHIP WITH
THE LORD? HAVE THEY MADE JESUS THE LORD OF THEIR LIFE. IT
COULD BE THAT THEY JUST NEED TO RECEIVE CHRIST WHICH IS
HOPE AND LIFE TO ALL THAT BELIEVE.
(ROMANS 1:16) NOW IT
COULD BE ANOTHER CHRISTIAN BROTHER OR SISTER THAT MAY
JUST BE WEAK IN FAITH AT THE TIME. THEY MAY JUST NEED TO BE
ENCOURAGED. THE LORD MAY USE YOU TO
RESTORE THEIR
CONFIDENCE IN HIM
AND THEMSELVES. EITHER WAY THIS WILL
DIRECT YOU ON WHO YOU ARE MINISTERING TO AND HOW TO
MINISTER TO THAT PERSON. IF THEY ARE NOT BORN AGAIN,THEN
YOU SHOULD THE GOSPEL OF JESUS WITH THEM AND
GIVE THEM
AN OPPORTUNITY TO GET SAVED
IF THEY WILL RECEIVE IT AND
ALLOW YOU TO DO SO, BUT IF NOT DON'T FORCE IT ON THEM. IF
THEY ARE ALREADY BORN AGAIN (SAVED), THEN YOU MAY JUST
NEED TO
ENCOURAGE THEM WITH SCRIPTURES FROM THE BIBLE.

6. YOU MUST GET THEM IN THE WORD OF GOD AND SHOW THEM
HOW THE WORD WILL BUILD THEM UP.
(ACTS 20:32) THIS WILL
ALSO BUILD YOU UP.
(JUDE 20) ALL COUNSELING SHOULD STEM
FROM THE BIBLE, SAVED OR UNSAVED.

7. YOU CAN ENCOURAGE THEM WITH THESE SCRIPTURES IF THEY
WILL LET YOU, IF NOT DON'T FORCE IT.
(JOHN 14:1, JOHN 16:20-24,
JOHN 16:33 AND 1 JOHN 5:4-5, 1 THESSALONIANS 4:13-18,
GALATIANS 6:9, PSALM 34:19, PSALM 112:1-7)

8.
GIVE THEM THESE PROMISES IF THEY APPLY. (ISAIAH 54:4-14,
ZEPHANIAH 3:14-20, ISAIAH 35:3, 10, JOB 5:15-25, JOB 14:7-9, JOB
11:18-19)

9.
EQUIP YOURSELF WITH THIS KNOWLEDGE. (1 SAMUEL 1:1-18,
19-20, PROVERBS 15:13, PROVERBS 13:12, 12:25,
BUT PROVERBS
12:25, JOB 6:25, PROVERBS 25:11, PROVERBS 10:22)

10.
MOST OF TIME WHEN PEOPLE FEEL SORRY FOR THEMSELVES,
IT IS BECAUSE OF SOMETHING HEY SAID OR DID OR DIDN'T DO OR
SAY TO SOMEONE ELSE. SOMETIMES IT IS BECAUSE OF THEIR OWN
DECISIONS THAT THEY FEEL THAT THEY ARE STUPID IN MAKING
DUMB CHOICES IN LIFE. IF THEY FEEL THAT WAY, THEN YOU
TELL
THEM
THAT THEY DON'T HAVE TO CONTINUE MAKING BAD
CHOICES OR THE WRONG DECISIONS IN LIFE.

11. YOU MUST EXPLAIN TO THEM THAT IT IS A CHOICE TO FEEL
SORRY FOR THEMSELVES AND LIVE IN CONTINUAL SORROW.

12. SOMETIMES PEOPLE ARE WRESTLING WITH A SPIRIT OR
SOME DEMONIC OPPRESSION. THAT'S IS WHY THEY MAY BE
FEELING SORRY FOR THEMSELVES, BUT YOU DON'T TELL THEM
THAT. I'LL SHOW YOU HOW TO PRAY FOR THEM TO GET THEM
FREE. YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN AUTHORITY TO BIND AND TO LOOSE.
SAY FATHER I BIND UP THE SPIRIT OF SORROW AND DEPRESSION
FROM OPERATING IN
(THEIR NAME) LIFE, AND I LOOSE LOVE, JOY,
AND PEACE IN THE HOLYGHOST. BUILD THEM UP IN FAITH LORD.
IN JESUS NAME!

13. IF WHAT YOU ARE DEALING WITH IS BEYOND WHAT WE JUST
COVERED IN THIS WRITING,THEN YOU MAY NEED TO
SEEK
ADVICE
FROM SOMEONE WHO IS A LITTLE MORE SEASONED AND
ADVISED IN THAT AREA. IN OTHER WORDS, THEY HAVE MORE
EXPERIENCE THAN YOU HAVE IN THAT AREA, OR THAT MAY BE
THEIR AREA OF EXPERTISE, OR YOU MAY HAVE TO REFER THEM TO
SOMEONE ELSE THAT CAN BETTER HELP THEM IN THAT AREA OF
THEIR LIFE. NOW IF THEY TRUST YOU AND THEY DON'T WANT TO
DEAL WITH NO ONE ELSE, THEN YOU SEEK ADVICE FROM THE
MORE SEASONED COUNSELORS AND GIVE THEM WHAT YOU CAN IF
THEY WILL RECEIVE IT FROM YOU, BUT IF THEY ARE NOT HEARING
YOU OR RECEIVING WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY, THEN YOU MAY JUST
HAVE TO CUT IT OFF AND END THAT SESSION RIGHT THERE. IF
THEY WON'T HEAR THE LORD, THEN THEY DEFINITELY WON'T
HEAR YOU.
(NUMBERS 18:1, 13-26)  


FINAL NOTE: I HOPE THIS WRITING HAS BLESSED YOU AND
EMPOWERED YOU WITH THE NECESSARY COUNSEL AND WISDOM
THAT YOU NEED TO HELP ADD HOPE, GUIDANCE AND DIRECTION
TO ANOTHER PERSON'S LIFE. FOR SPECIFIC ANSWERS FOR LIFE
MATTERS FROM THE BIBLE PERSPECTIVE THAT IS BEYOND YOU
AND YOUR EXPERTISE, THEM YOU CAN EMAIL AT THE FOLLOWING
ADDRESS;
  RODERICK@ENSIGNTOTHENATIONS.COM  



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